Is Honesty Really the Best Policy?

A lot of the job applications I have dealt with always asks for a reason... Why do you want to work at our firm? The answer would be, Because you've got a fantabulous firm, a great working environment in which I will be able to blossom into the best lawyer I can be, and I love the area of law you practice, bla bla bla...but is that really me? If I were being completely honest, I'd say, so I could get a visa to stay here and also so I could earn lots of money so I can feed my substance addiction, namely clothes and good food, and also so that I could pay to dance like a fairy... but I suppose that wouldnt look too good on my application.

For those of us who dont exactly have a passion for work, do we really need to lie in all our work applications to make our applications look good? Sure looks like it... so does that make us all liars? hhhmmmm... maybe it's all justified lies. We need money, so we need to work to get money. In yet to work, you need a job, so you've gotta apply for one. How to increase your chances of snagging a job? Send in an kick ass application with all the right things the firm/company wants to hear from an applicant. In conclusion, it isnt our fault. It's for our own survival! What's a few little white lies in a job application? ;-)

And how about honesty in a relationship? Isnt a relationship supposed to be built on trust and honesty? Like, you're supposed to share every thought, every thing you do and bla bla bla with that someone special. But what if you did something bad? Should you tell the other half?

"I started thinking about honesty. Maybe the whole idea was overrated. Maybe coming clean was the ultimate selfish act. A way to absolve yourself by hurting someone who doesnt deserve to be hurt. I cheated on a test in the 5th Grade with two friends, they confessed, got grounded, and failed the class. I never told anyone, and it never mattered. In a relationship, is honesty really the best policy?"

(Sex and the City)

Do we live with our guilt? Or do we owe it to our other half to be completely honest? Some people like to know everything about their partner. Even the bad stuff. They feel they'll get a better picture as to where they stood with their other halfs. Some people are wasps. They ignore the elephant in the room. If you don't speak of it, it does not exist. Still, is that how relationships are supposed to be? You keep all your sins and guilt inside and torment yourself? Sounds very S&M. Such revelations can either make or break a relationship. In my own opinion though, if a person cheated on his loved one, that is a major no-no. Even if the other person was honest, that would be a major deal breaker. Since such honesty would shake the foundations of any relationships, would it be wise to own up to one's mistakes or should they bite their tounge and wallow in their own guilt in silence? It's really hard to decide on that point...